Sa’afia wasn’t just a dolly who’d do whatever she’s told. She was a submissive woman. She  did things that she liked, that turned her on. 

She stood up for herself, even when she knelt. Or bent over to be spanked or fucked, knowing that she wouldn’t choose which happened. But that was something she wanted. I provided it for her.

When it’s moving right, bdsm  connects the people involved with incredible intensity and intimacy.

It’s a sententious thing to say, but bdsm is the opposite of violence.