This always feels right, to me.
Beneath the sexiness of spanking, which I’ve discussed here, there’s something very comforting in being spanked, for many submissives.
I read somewhere that one of the reasons it’s so emotionally soothing is that it has sensual links to something that human, chimp and bonobo mothers all do. A common form of comforting is when the mother holds the baby against their body, and almost absent-mindedly smacks the baby’s bottom. Gently, while swaying or rocking back abd forwards, up and down.
The meaning of this gesture, it’s been suggested, is:
Hand on bottom: It’s okay, I’ve got you.
Hand away: But there’s no emergency, you’re safe, so I don’t have to hold you tight.
Hand back on bottom: But if there were danger, I’d hold you tight and protect you.
Hand away: But there’s no need.
Hand back on bottom: Still, I’m here.
And so on. Not quite forever, but it can go on for quite a while.
So this kind of comforting still carries a sort of physical memory for the submissive. He or she is being looked after, and they’re ok.
Anyway, my girl will be back in this position as fast as possible, once she’s cleared Customs.
oh yes I totally agree – I feel a security in being spanked
That is really interesting. That bottom tapping is definitely something I can remember doing with my kids when they were little. It just felt instinctively right and even doing it felt comforting so one can see how those feeling easily become associated with that action
Wow, this is fascinating. I love the concept. and yeah, it’s a movement I do to comfort babies, and it’s a movement I love having done to me (albiet with much more force).
Actually there does seem to be a little truth in that, I love a comforting hand on my bottom.
I think about that sometimes how soothing a spanking it. It just resets my mind in so many ways
Always so important to take it back to basics; there’s power in foundational work. 🙂 And yes, spanking can be really soothing and a great way to let a sub know you are caring for them.
Fascinating read, I’ve definitely done the spank/pat thing on babies, and on lovers, but never made that connection.
Simply Lovely !!!
Xxx – K
Lovely image and words!